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hmm depends on how you define sex. also for me I get off more on emotional connection rather than physical sex. I look for relationships rather than sex when I do my poly. I'm fine with sex with a secondary or a rarity in my love relationships, doesn't mean I don't find the folks hot or don't have very intense intimate feelings for them.

Sex definitely plays an important role for me.

Sex has historically been a great connector between me & my friends, as well as a big part of my primary relationship. Whether solo or shared, It is healing, nurturing and empowering for me. And while I don't "have sex" necessarily with everyone I'm close to, I find there is usually a sexual component of one sort or another in the mix... I don't think I can imagine a close, loving relationship that didn't involve at least some aspect of sexuality.

Good question. It's not. And, it is. It's in the moment. And even then, it's not important. I like sex and I don't seek it out. If it happens, it's great. I have similar feelings about the whole intimacy thing as you do. I have several friends I have deeply intimate connections with that just seem to get more and more intimate and we don't have sex. I have very satisfying relationships right now where I feel totally fulfilled. And I am always open to the possibility of sex.

good question.

in the past, sex has been a huge part of my relationships. now, it isn't as big. it's still there, but now, it's more of a way to interact more fully. another way to interact with each other, that conversations, watching movies, going to the museum, etc just doesn't seem to cover.

Sex is important!
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Listening to good music is important.
Driking good coffee is important.
Tinkering with computers is important.
Riding a bicycle is important.
...
Things that make you happy are important :)

Sex to me is super important in delienating a non-platonic intimate relationship from an intimate friendship. In other words, I have a circle of friends I am very emotionally intimate with, but would never be sexual with, for a number of reasons. Within the context of poly, I cannot imagine not having or expressing sexual feelings towards my partner, because I define polywhatever as love/sex, and not just love or just sex. That's just me, though. It's interesting that my primary partner DOES consider my platonic relationships to be part of my poly behavior, just as I consider his non-emotional but purely sexual relationships to be part of HIS poly behavior.

All that said, the potential beauty of poly relationships for me is that unlike serial monogamy and all its needs and expectations, I see a poly relationship easily morphing into a successful platonic, yet intimate friendship if necessary.

hmmm...this is a good question. I've often thought about it myself. I haven't intentionally been in a romantic relationship for over a year and have no intentions of it for at least another. I am having sex though, off and on. I don't enjoy sex without some form of intimate connection, even if it's a one nighter. It's not bad, it just doesn't fulfill me unless there is some connection of that sort.

I have had the lesbian death bed thing happen in one relationship a long time ago and that didn't work. I do think sex is important for a number of reasons...

On the scientific and psychological level, it helps with overall health..people who have sex regularly live longer. In a romantic relationship, I think it can add to both intimacy as well as spiritual connection, though it may not be necessary as there are other ways of getting those things to occur.

I love making love...I think it's some of the hottest sexual encounters I've had.

I feel like I have a lot of non-sexual partners right now..people that fulfill me on the intimate level, the partner level, and even the romantic level and none of these are sexual...though they are different in flavor that a romantic partner type relationship.

I am rambling aloud because you've made me think...

I am going to say that, yes, in theory, if I were in a partnership, sex would be important. I don't think the poly piece would necessarily solve that, though it would help if either of us have fantasies are desires that the other cannot fulfill. Understanding that people go through periods of time where they are not sexual, overall, a sexless partnership would probably not work unless it was sort of agreed upon dynamic.

I wonder if any of that made sense :P

Easy answer: Sex is the thermometer of our relationships. It's very important.