I have had relationships where people have come up to me and congratulated me on my relationship and how well it seems to be going and how in love I seem and how happy I seem. I've had other relationships where I was in love with someone possibly just as much and not received the same kind of feedback.
I wonder if there are some ways of being in relationships that please outsiders looking in more than other ones do?
Has anyone else experienced something like this?
I wonder if there are some ways of being in relationships that please outsiders looking in more than other ones do?
Has anyone else experienced something like this?
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Re: Are some relationships more socially important than others?
Tue, July 10, 2007 - 12:36 PMI've experienced this, as well and the only thing I can think of is outward appearance.
To me, my primary partner is very handsome, but not conventionally 'pretty'. My girl is very pretty. I get feedback when I'm with my girl, but not with my partner.
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Re: Are some relationships more socially important than others?
Tue, July 10, 2007 - 1:29 PM
Robin, you always ask the best questions!!
>I wonder if there are some ways of being in relationships that please outsiders looking in more than other ones do?
When I was married, I always had people be surprised, even shocked, when they found out I was married. Now this happened even before I came out as bi and queer, and even when I was wearing a wedding ring every day, and even though I have a hyphenated name. Really, I always thought, what more do you want from me? But apparently my style of being a partner is just too independent than is ok, at least ok for het women I guess.
I never could figure out what people expected me to do as a married person that I was not doing, either. And I'm talking about a 20+ year relationship; it's not like I was new to being married or something.
