John had fallen in love with this absolute moron (And I'm being nice here) who was all wrong for the two of us and was activly trying to braek John and I apart. But I tried my hardest to make it work and keep the 3 sides ballanced.
One day Bryan just up and stopped coming around (Praise the gods) and John was heart broken for a few months.

Well, one of the few rules we have, is that we can have a VETO on the partners dates. But I wouldn't use it if I simply didn't like the person. Gladly, that never really happened so far anyway.

But I would use it if I saw that she was making weird hormon-based decisions ;)

there is Nothing in the rule book that says that you all have to spend time All together...
My Primary (committed partner) and I have Very Different Tastes in men... and we have only twice shared a Man together ... for that reason.

there is No reason why you have to bring someone to your home who your Primary is Not comfortable with... or if you do, it can be understood that it is only when they are not going to be around.

befor I found my Primary relationship, I had an "Extra" that was married... we would get together at his House only on those occasions when his partner was going out...
Strangley his partner (peter) and I ended up having a Cordual passing relationship ... and I ended up not seeing his husband anymore becasue he once told me that he and his partner were going to be exclusive at a gathering we were all attending... Only he did not tell me that until AFTER WE HAD SEX. After that i fealt like i could not trust him to Honor peter... and THAT was NOT OK with me. Darn he was Sooo Hot. and fun in bed.

William